Walaupun yg bikin catholic church, tp ternyata seminarnya lebih bersifat umum. Intinya, bagaimana mengenali dan mencegah sexual predators and keep our children safe.
They interviewed the victims. They interviewed the offenders. Walaupun bukan topik baru, tetep aja bikin kita melek, sick, sad, angry, disturbed. Kesian anaknya, for years mrk mikir mrk dirty, guilty, not worthy, they did something wrong. Malah ada yg mau bunuh diri segala. Padahal mrk cuma victims, yg ga berani ngomong. Karena their molesters biasanya orang2 yg kenal deket sama keluarganya. Ortu temen, guru, camp counselor, bahkan priest at their church.
Kita diajarin gimana mengenali warning signs from both the victim and the offender. Dikasih tau apa yg harus kita perhatikan, kita laporin, kalo kita liat or ngerasa this thing happen. Gimana mencegahnya, dan gimana sikap kita kalo anak kita say something of this matter.
Very meaningful and beneficial.
Here is the website. http://virtus.org/virtus/
Bisa cari lokasi mana yg bakal offer seminar, bisa cari yg deket sama kita.
I wish every parents can attend and safe our children from a lifetime scar this predators can cause.
A while back, at the entrance of a gym, there was a picture of a very thin and beautiful woman. The caption was "This summer, do you want to be a mermaid or a whale?"
The story goes, a woman (of clothing size unknown) answered the following way:
"Dear people, whales are always surrounded by friends (dolphins, seals, curious humans), they are sexually active and raise their children with great tenderness.
They entertain like crazy with dolphins and eat lots of prawns. They swim all day and travel to fantastic places like Patagonia, the Barents Sea or the coral reefs of Polynesia.
They sing incredibly well and sometimes even are on cds. They are impressive and dearly loved animals, which everyone defend and admires.
Mermaids do not exist.
But if they existed, they would line up to see a psychologist because of a problem of split personality: woman or fish?
They would have no sex life and could not bear children.
Yes, they would be lovely, but lonely and sad.
And, who wants a girl that smells like fish by his side?
Without a doubt, I'd rather be a whale.
At a time when the media tells us that only thin is beautiful, I prefer to eat ice cream with my kids, to have dinner with my husband, to eat and drink and have fun with my friends.
We women, we gain weight because we accumulate so much wisdom and knowledge that there isn't enough space in our heads, and it spreads all over our bodies.
We are not fat, we are greatly cultivated.
Every time I see my curves in the mirror, I tell myself: "How amazing am I ?! "
(The girl on the picture is French model Tara Lynn)
By: Delphine Fieberg
Padahal bilangnya udah bosen jualan. Udah cape nawarin something ke orang.
But here I am again... chasing $5K funding for field trip.
Asking people to help vote to keep our ranking up.
What's in it for me ? Hmm.. maybe nothing. Just so Tasha can go on a field trip this year.
Why do I do this ? I don't really know. Maybe just willingness to help ? Because I see Mr. P so diligently do it for the kids, while it has nothing for him too.
Maybe this what makes this country great... spirit of togetherness, willingness to do more, and selfless act just to help others.
Hopefully we can make it tomorrow.
Update: Theoritically we won. 89 place 176 votes. 45 votes are indonesian people :)But we haven't heard from Kleenex, so we kinda hold off on the celebration. Happy to be part of it. Put the power of facebook to send 800+ kids for field trip regardless the budget cut.
- Mood:
hopeful
Dengan tangan kasihNya, tidak ada yang mustahil.
Bukan hanya ditolong, tapi juga dihiburkan.
Dengan berkat berlimpah, segala dicukupi.
( Every problem, one by one, God solves it.
With His loving hands, nothing is impossible.
Not only helped, but also cheered.
With abundance blessings, everything is fulfilled).
Imaginary friends and imaginary companions are a psychological and social phenomenon where a friendship or other interpersonal relationship takes place in the imagination rather than external physical reality. Imaginary friends are fictional characters created forimprovisational role-playing. They often have elaborate personalities and behaviors. They seem real to their creators, though they are ultimately unreal, as shown by studies.[1]
Imaginary friends are made often in childhood, sometimes in adolescence, and rarely in adulthood. They often function as tutelaries whenplayed with by a child. They reveal, according to several theories of psychology, a child's anxieties, fears, goals and perceptions of the world through that child's conversations. They are, according to some children, physically indistinguishable from real people, while others say they see their imaginary friends only in their heads.
[edit]Purposes
It has been theorized that children with imaginary companions may develop language skills and retain knowledge faster than children without them, which may be because these children get more linguistic practice while carrying out "conversations" with their imaginary friends than their peers get.[2]
Kutner (n.d.) holds that:
Imaginary companions are an integral part of many children's lives. They provide comfort in times of stress, companionship when they're lonely, someone to boss around when they feel powerless, and someone to blame for the broken lamp in the living room. Most important, an imaginary companion is a tool young children use to help them make sense of the adult world.[3]
Taylor, Carlson & Gerow (c2001: p. 190) hold that:
...despite some results suggesting that children with imaginary companions might be superior in intelligence, it is not true that all intelligent children create them.[4]
A long-time popular misconception is that most children dismiss or forget the imaginary friend once they begin school and acquire real friends. According to one study, by the age of seven, sixty-five percent of children report that they have had an imaginary companion at some point in their lives.[5] Some psychologists[who?] have suggested that children simply retain but stop speaking about imaginary friends, due to adult expectations and peer pressure. Still, some children report creating or maintaining imaginary friends as pre-teens or teenagers. Few adults report having imaginary friends, and some experts[who?] believe that the presence of imaginary friends past early childhood signals a serious psychiatric disorder.[6][7]
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Imaginary_f** Myth and Reality : http://wondertime.go.com/learning/articl
I've made mistakes being a Mom ♥ often more than I'd like to admit ♥ But I will always be there for you ♥ to hear you ♥ to cheer you ♥ to laugh or cry with you ♥ to protect you with my life & sometimes tell you things you don't want to hear ♥ I will love you for eternity with all my heart ♥ No one will ever love you more than I do ♥ I'm your Mom!
Masih Pentingkah Aku Bagimu?
*** ditujukan kepada komunikasi erat yang tengah melarikan diri…
Buat dunia, mungkin aku tak penting. Aku tak sepenting Presiden suatu negara atau artis papan atas yang selalu dikejar-kejar paparazzi. Aku hanyalah aku yang ingin menjadi diriku… Dicintai, dihargai, sebagai mana apa adanya…
Sejujurnya, aku ingin merasakan sekali lagi bahwa kamu menganggapku penting-seperti dulu lagi. Menempati mahkota di hatimu, karena kamu adalah bagian hidupku yang terdekat- bahkan kamu adalah belahan jiwaku… Kalau bagimu saja aku tak lagi penting (tak lagi menempati ranking-ranking teratas di hatimu), luka mulai menyeruak dan sedih pun mulai melambaikan tangannya padaku. Apa artinya janji kita di awal hidup bersama? Seolah mahligai perkawinan yang begitu indah itu sudah kehilangan maknanya…
Terkadang aku ingin dianggap penting. Setidaknya sedikit lebih penting dari pekerjaanmu, dariFacebook dan Blackberry-mu, laptop-mu, atau dari iPhone-mu… Penting sehingga kau mau mendengarkanku. Setidaknya aku bukan kauanggap bisu…Dulu-sebelum menikah- kita bisa berbicara dan bercengkrama berjam-jam lamanya. Lupakan waktu yang bergulir satu demi satu. Seolah dia bisa tinggal diam, karena kita miliki saat itu… Tetapi sekarang? Melihat mukaku saja kau tak sempat. Apalagi mendengarkan celotehanku. Sungguh ingin kutanya padamu, masih pentingkah diriku di matamu?
Kalau kulakukan introspeksi diri… Pernah kupikirkan kembali, apa aku yang terlalu egois sehingga terus mau dianggap penting? Atau memang kau terlalu cuek dan tak mau tahu, sehingga membuatku menyimpan rasa ini? Perasaan itu begitu kuat bahwa aku tak penting sama sekali di hadapanmu. Apakah berlebihan ketika kuinginkan komunikasi yang lebih baik antara kita? Apakah terlalu muluk, ketika kuinginkan kau ada di sisiku ketika aku merasa letih, lelah, dan sedang bersedih atau tengah berduka? Sekaligus ingin kubagi semua rasa yang indah yang tengah kualami: suka, ceria, bahagia… Senasib sepenanggungan bersama? Mengapa seolah setiap kali aku merasa sendirian menanggung itu semua? Ke manakah kebersamaan kita yang pernah amat nyata?
Salahkah? Ketika perasaan tak lagi penting menyelusup perlahan di hatiku, bahkan kini meraja di dadaku?
Aku ingin kau ada di sini dan memberikan peneguhan… Bahwa itu semua bisa diperbaiki, asal kita punya niat untuk menjembatani komunikasi kita dengan lebih baik lagi…
Sayang, masih pentingkah diriku bagimu? Ke mana sisa-sisa keindahan relasi kita di waktu lalu? Ingin kukembali merengkuh… Tetapi dengan mengayuh sendirian, keraguan besar tengah menyergapku… Bertanya pada diriku: mampukah aku?
Aku tetap mencintaimu. Kau masih begitu penting bagiku. Semoga rasa itu juga ada padamu.
Inginku bicara dari hati ke hati sekali lagi denganmu. Cintaku, masih pentingkah diriku bagimu?
Ho Chi Minh City, 13 April 2011
-fonnyjodikin-
* mengingatkan diri sendiri juga kepada mereka yang sudah berumah tangga bahwa komunikasi adalah amat penting. Penting untuk membuat para suami/istri merasa penting, bahwa mereka tetap menempati ranking atas dalam hidup kita yang sering kali tergantikan dengan kesibukan atau ‘kesibukan’ dengan alat-alat gadget yang membuat kita lupa dengan suami/istri/ anak-anak serta anggota keluarga kita lainnya. Mereka tetap penting, bahkan menempati bagian terpenting dalam hidup ini… Smoga kita terus berusaha untuk memperbaiki komunikasi kita…
*copas, forward, share? Mohon sertakan sumbernya…Trims.
* tautannya ada di: http://fjodikin.blogspot.com/2011/04/mas
Glad to be back, even though still miss everybody there. Rasanya ga cukup waktu buat ketemu, buat ngobrol, buat kangen2an.. tau2 udah kudu balik sini lagi. Tp di sini jg ternyata udah banyak yg kangenin.. dan ga kekurangan kerjaan yg kudu diberesin. So, I think in the end of the days, it is nice to have two homes. Where we all can feel loved and belong. A situation that we can fall back into.
Walaupun tiap kali balik sini rasanya hati tenang, balik ke peradaban. Dimana orang bisa ngantri dgn tertib, liat tempat yang bersih terawat, jalan dan lingkungan yang lapang, dan sistem yang teratur. Tetep aja pengen balik ke Indo, walaupun di sana selalu misuh2 kepanasan, kegatelan digigit nyamuk, dibikin jengkel sama sistem dan orang2. Every visit to Indonesia remind me why we are here... pergi dari segala birokrasi yang ga masuk akal dan sama sekali ga efisien. Jadi kalo buat balik indo for good, I will have a looooong thought about it. A short or long enough vacation maybe enough once in a while :)
Indonesia is always about 3F for me. Family, Friend, and Food. And for these 3, it was never dissapointing :)
Kalo ga nyetok bisa nyesel krn ntar pas butuh jd beli mahal. Tp mau belanja jg between males sama sayang duit... Heran ya, gini aja bisa jd dilema...
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